Depression is an odd thing. Sometimes when you’re right in the middle of it, you don’t even know it. It’s only when you’re out the other side and can look back that you realize how bad things really were. But why is it so hard to understand when someone else has depression? There is plenty enough in this world to make people feel down. Then you add your own chemistry working against you and you literally can’t help yourself. And why can’t people just TALK about it?
I was chatting with a friend the other day and she happened to mention that a person we both knew had struggled with depression in the past. It blew my mind because, looking back, the signs were all there. But at the time, I just didn’t see it.
Is this why it feels like such a lonely condition? There are people all around you, people who know you fairly well, who should see that you’re drowning but don’t reach out to help. It’s so hard to reach out yourself when you feel this way because you feel abnormal, or like a failure, or that there’s something wrong with you because you can’t just snap out of it. Or, you don’t quite realize it’s that bad.
These are all questions I feel like nobody is talking about. Everybody knows someone who’s been through depression or is currently going through it. I wonder if we could just pay attention a little more, would we see it?
Here are 10 signs to look for:
- Enduring Sadness
- Self-Loathing Attitude
- Loss of Interest in All Activities
- Irritability and Isolation
- Loss of Energy
- Disturbed Sleep Patterns
- Change in Appetite and Body Weight
- Reckless Behavior
- Suicidal Tendencies
As you can see, depression affects every part of a person. I think the list above isn’t quite right though, because some people will try and hide it and they can be very good at it. And why do they hide it? Because it’s become a thing. Because talking about your true feelings or honestly answering how you are doing makes people uncomfortable. You know, fake it ’til you make it? But faking it only helps everyone else ignore the signs, it doesn’t help you at all.
So if you notice the signs in yourself or a loved one, please SPEAK UP. Let’s help take care of each other.
If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts/tendencies etc., please call: